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10 Things Adoptive Parents Wish Their Friends and Family Understood

10 Things Adoptive Parents Wish Their Friends and Family Understood

These are 10 of the things I wish friends understood about what it’s like to adopt children.

1. The right vocabulary to use

Just to get this straight from the start. I am my children’s real mum. The people whose genes they share are their birth family. Clear? Good. Because making up bedtime stories, mending grazed knees and remembering which one hates tomatoes make me just as much a real parent as anyone else.

“Oh, and please drop the ‘adopted’ when introducing us to others. They’re our children. Full stop.”

2. Our parenting style will almost certainly be different

Yes, I know you’d put yours in a time out on the naughty step and withhold a sticker from her chart. But if my daughter has misbehaved as a consequence of believing she’s had so many sets of parent figures in her short life because she’s inherently unlovable, making her feel bad isn’t going to help me change her mind. If you disagree, either keep quiet or ask me to lend you a book on it. Read more

The Right Way to Adopt and Tips to Avoid a Scam

The Right Way to Adopt and Tips to Avoid a Scam

“If you’re thinking about adopting a child, do it. There are so many children who want and need that special and safe place,” Dr. Phil says. He shares tips to ensure a successful adoption. Don’t be scared to adopt; learn the facts to empower yourself to move forward with confidence.

Decide What Type of Adoption to Pursue
Can you handle a child who has special needs? What age range, background and ethnicity would fit best within your household? Can you welcome a group of two or more siblings into your home?

Select an Adoption Agency
There are public and private adoption agencies. Public agencies do not charge money or charge very little. They mostly place children with special needs and typically have flexible eligibility requirements for adoptive parents. Private agencies usually charge a fee. They give you access to a diverse population of available children. Read more