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Get Your Child to Listen to You

Get Your Child to Listen to You

Recently I asked a group of moms, “How do you get your child to listen to you?”

Some replied, “Give consequences till he listens,” and others, “Be willing to leave if she doesn’t listen.” Those things do work, but most of the time a parent has to add a reaction to the request in order for it to work.

Hanan Y. wants to know, “Seriously, how many times do you have to say, ‘Please stop,’ before you are pushed to the point of screaming at them?”

There are many ways to help parents increase listening. However, unless a parent is clear about the intent behind her wish to be heard, no tip will work for very long. Read more

7 Discipline Mistakes All Moms Make

7 Discipline Mistakes All Moms Make

I haven’t been to the post office since “the incident.” I was that wild-eyed woman with a screaming child, slowly working my way up the line as one customer after another let me go ahead. Turns out my desperate attempts to comfort my kid were the result of a rookie error. The tantrum came from an oversight I made earlier that day: failing to notice the signals (eye-rubbing and crankiness) that he was tired. No wonder he had a meltdown. Read more

When Your Toddler Starts Testing His Limits

When Your Toddler Starts Testing His Limits

As a baby your child was happy to follow your lead. But now that he’s a toddler he realizes that he doesn’t have to stay by your side, let you change a dirty diaper, or do pretty much anything else you ask. Take a bath? How about I just run around naked and squealing? Eat one more carrot? No, I think I’ll toss it on the floor, along with my turkey meatballs and this fork right here.

As maddening as his defiance may be, it’s also a positive sign of his development. “Kids this age see themselves as separate beings from their parents, free to make their own decisions,” says Tovah Klein, Ph.D., author of How Toddlers Thrive. Your child is also gauging what he can (and can’t) get away with. These tactics will encourage his cooperation while also helping you keep your cool during this challenging stage. Read more