If you are a parent, you have most likely smiled more than once while thinking about how your child views the world. Whether it’s looking up at a cloud and seeing an elephant, laughing because they hear Santa Claus on the roof, or crying because they see a monster under the bed, kids definitely live in a different world than adults.
Let’s face it. Parents have more stuff than ever to make their lives easier. Shoot, my blog helps introduce many of them, but there are still some common sense items that must be invented — soon. I have three kids and don’t know why these things aren’t in every department store in America. Sure, some of this stuff might be as likely as hoverboards to come along in our lifetime, and they might not pass all the safety tests, but all would restore sanity to busy parents’ lives. Something must be done, so here is my list. Borrow it, steal it, share it, whatever you do just invent one thing here and you will go down in parenting folklore as a hero. Read more
One of the hardest things to learn in life, which all adults themselves can attest to (and still struggle with), is learning how to manage emotions. For children in particular, episodes of emotional turmoil can be very common. When kids are young, the intellect is still largely undeveloped, while reactive, emotional behaviors tend to rule. As a survival mechanism, infants learn that reacting brings about their desired response. Tired? Whine. Thirsty? Cry. We’ve all heard of the terrible two’s… Read more
For kids, the importance of play is undeniable. It strengthens connections between brain cells, allows them to experiment, to test theories, develop self-regulation, and learn social skills like empathy. Play is also the birthplace of creativity — where kids sprout new ideas. The more they play, the more advanced they become in other domains — for example, research shows that children who are more advanced in their play around 1 year of age are more advanced in one or more aspects of language around age two. Meanwhile, play deprivation slows mental growth in all these realms and poses a serious health risk. Read more
As the pregnancy editor for Parents, sister magazine to American Baby, I spend my days reviewing new medical studies with top obstetricians, getting women to open up about some of the less glamorous parts of becoming a mom (hello, heartburn!), and sending gazillions of happy congratulatory emails to the new parents I meet along the way. My work life spills over into my personal life to such a degree that I should probably call my Facebook page “Babybook.” On any given day, about a third of all the posts in my newsfeed are baby- or pregnancy- related. And you know what? I love it! I love the cute baby toes and sweet bedtime rituals. I love watching as strong women evolve into superhero mothers. Except for sometimes. Read more
As we all know, a new baby takes a lot of preparation. While you’re registering for swaddles, strollers, and diaper pails, preparing your nursery for its new inhabitant, and generally making sure your life is baby-ready (good luck with that!), there’s one piece of advice I give to all of my friends who are expecting — one thing that I believe every new mom should do just for themselves. And no, it doesn’t involve stocking up on coffee or buying a few cases of wine . . . though you should probably do that, too. Read more
As parents, we must teach our children the realities of life. Life hurts us, people hurt us, we hurt other people and we hurt ourselves. That is what relationships and life are about. The sooner we let our children in on this secret, the healthier their life-approach will be. We must teach that life is not built to be fair. The relationships our children have will, for certain, be their greatest teachers of love and pain. They will never need to use forgiveness more than in their relationships. Forgiveness is many things — but we also must teach that forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. It is not about condoning harms which have been done. Forgiveness is about taking power back. Read more
Parents are responsible for teaching their children important lessons of life. The child’s mind is like wet clay: whatever he or she hears and sees leaves a lasting impression. They are innocent, sensitive, and need lots of affection! You can place them in your lap and teach them values; try to talk to them instead of instructing them. As parents you need to spend quality time with them and also follow the same rules you are teaching your child if you want them to listen to you.
It is said that words make the greatest impact. Using simple phrases can help to gain your child’s obedience and this will enable you to teach those good habits and values they must know. Here is a list of things you can tell your child every day. Read more
From infancy to the job market, these common parenting mistakes hurt more than they help
Anyone who’s ever been to a school science fair and seen the elaborate projects that obviously weren’t conceived by a child’s brain knows that parents are more involved than ever. New research shows that some surprisingly common things parents do to help their children succeed might not be doing their kids much good. And according to a new cover story by Hanna Rosin for The Atlantic, the overprotective instincts of modern parents are destroying children’s independence, trapping them in a hyper-controlled bubble that they might never escape. (This behavior is not doing parents much good either; one study indicates that helicopter mothers are more likely to be unhappy.) Read more
Parenting is more than cuddling your precious newborn in your arms, counting her fingers and toes, feeding her every two hours and keeping her diaper dry. This is the easy part. You must guide her through life, making sure her decisions are the right ones. Some of these include the manner in which she treats others. Respect for authority includes everyone from you to her teachers. Respect begins in the home and, although you may not realize it, your child must also respect herself. Read more