When you welcome a younger sibling into your family, you have visions of your kids growing up together, leaning on each other, and being each other’s best friends. What you don’t envision is mediating constant battles, contending with sibling rivalry, and the kids’ outright disdain for each other.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings, says it starts with the environment parents create at home. “If you do the hard work to regulate your emotions, your children will, too,” she says. “If you create a sweet, deep relationship with each child, they won’t be threatened by their sibling. If you take the time to teach them to express their needs without attacking the other person and to find win/win solutions, they will have the skills to work things out with each other and to create rewarding relationships for the rest of their lives.” Read more